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January 29, 2014


Love doesn’t come easy. If you meet someone who says it is easy they are most likely the Anti-Christ, just saying. At some point love in America became a feeling and since few people feel like it, we have a lot less love.

I was thinking about this recently as I attempted to track down a family in our community. The circumstances surrounding the search don’t matter, but I did think about how difficult it can be to try and show love.

There was a family who needed some food. It happens. The problem came when I tried to find their home. My first attempt went nowhere. I went to their supposed rental home and knocked and knocked. I thought maybe I was going at a bad time so I returned in the evening. I knocked and knocked and got nothing. Finally I decided maybe if I left the food on the porch that would work. So the following day I returned again and dropped the food off.

Mission accomplished. Maybe not. I thought it might be smart to drive by the home to make sure they found the food. I mean I had been to the home on three separate occasions and had yet to see any signs of life. As I drove by I witnessed the bags of food still sitting on the porch. This would require another trip. One more time to pick up the items.

Now what am I going to do? Did I mention the big NO TRESPASSING sign or the one that said KEEP OUT? I thought here I am trespassing and picking up bags of food and this is in the middle of the day. Maybe I should go next door to make sure if someone is at that house they know what is going on. Okay, you are reading this and thinking why didn’t you do that two or three visits ago? I get it. Please. I did. I knocked on the neighbors house two times but no one was home. So there.

This time I found someone next door. The man turned out to be connected to the property. Good thing I finally found him. He informed me the family had moved on so let him know I would be retrieving the food. He thought it was a good idea. He believed the family could use the food.

Of course we aren’t done yet. I next went looking for their new home. I had some information that led me in a different direction. That direction was no more fruitful. On my third trip to the new place I finally found someone. She let me know they had never heard of the family I was searching for.

Back to square one.

I don’t share to say look what Darin did. No, it was just a reminder that if you want to love people, it will cost you something. It will be inconvenient. It will be trouble. Time consuming.quote_marriage

I once offered to take an elderly woman into our home while she got her living arrangements settled. The church treasurer wouldn’t allow it. He said it would cost me my marriage. Instead we paid for her housing out of the churches funds and I went by and visited. Another time we pulled a young lady out of a very bad situation and brought her into our home. It brings a smile to my face, many years after the experience. Love isn’t easy. Loving always comes at a price.

But here is what hit me. Yesterday I drove to a nearby city to watch our youngest play basketball. I had to hurry home to make a board meeting that was at our church building. Made it with ten minutes to spare.

The night before we had some new friends over for dinner. They arrived a little early so I had to excuse myself as I drove our daughters to coffee over at Delta Christian and then again to take our son to Young Life. It cost me something but I didn’t think much of it. Right? Because I love my kids.

I have been interrupted writing this blog post two times. Once for a doctors appointment and another for the orthodontist. Just now a third. Love costs. Obviously Jesus is the ultimate answer to the cost of love, but still, since I’m not Jesus it won’t cost as much…..

James certainly had some thoughts when writing to the early church.

What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them? Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.” James 2:14-17 Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

There is something personal in that. A brother or sister, understand the terms, is without. Notice you are actually speaking to them. Love is going to cost you something. I wonder what James would think of much of our Christian love today. We give money for someone else to love? We drop off items and call it done? I’m not saying those aren’t necessary or good but how much love do they show?

I don’t know but I must admit, my recent search made me think about the cost of time, energy and resources. In the end this family will get the food from someone who loves them and isn’t that what it is all about?

God bless.

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